Monday, April 13, 2009

This is for the ladies//Anniv. Which is better? HELP!?

It%26#039;s our 16th wedding Anniversary. Which is better? Having flowers delivered by the florist? Or me delivering them personally to the office? I need to know tonight please...

This is for the ladies//Anniv. Which is better? HELP!?
ohh how sweet ur are! I would love it if u got them delivered to my office (so everyone could see how damn sweet u are) and then U unexpectedly show up with a bite to eat or something sweet..maybe chocolate cov.strawberries!! And a simple card! Make it extra sweet tho! And happy anniversary!!!!!!!!! HOPE I MAKE IT TO my 16th!! WHOO HOOO!!!
Reply:I%26#039;d say both. Have a nice bouquet delivered and then greet her with a single long stem rose or an single stem of her favorite flower when she gets off work and escort her to whatever else you have planned for the evening. Whether it be a dinner for two or a pampering bath (with all its amenities) when you get her home.


congratulations on 16 years! WHOOP
Reply:As a lady, it doesn%26#039;t really matter who delivers them, but deliver them to work, so all her co-workers can be jealous of what a romantic husband she has!
Reply:The florist because there%26#039;s a frenzy when flowers get delivered. Everyone rushes around to see who they are for, then the lucky lady just smiles and shows them off - everyone else thinks she%26#039;s the luckiest lady in the world because they didn%26#039;t get the flowers. I have received many bouquets, trust me on this. She will love it - especially if she has no clue. Happy Anniversary!!
Reply:Well if you deliver them during luch or when she has her break..then that would be great if you delivered them yourself so you get a few minutes...and it would be a bigger suprise...



White Teeth

Why did he leave me at now?

I am 28 weeks pregnant and a mother to a 3 year old. On my 4th wedding anniversary my husband bought me flowers and expressed how happy and how much he loved me. He took out to eat and after dinner he dumped me. He told me he was unhappy and he was unsure if he loved me. I am a full time employee working from 230pm to 1030pm, he expected me to be wonder woman. WHY DID HE LEAVE ME? Now am staying at my moms with our son and our unborn child.

Why did he leave me at now?
I don%26#039;t have psychic ability. You know more details than me.
Reply:Sounds like he was hoping to find something at the dinner that he didn%26#039;t really find. Have you asked him why? he might be able to answer it better then anyone here. You need to talk to him and reach out and then go from there.





I wish you the best and sorry to hear of how everything is going now.
Reply:because he is a selfish prick. you sound like a woman who knows what it takes to help support a family. all men should be so lucky. hang in there, the right person will come along.
Reply:That%26#039;s where you went wrong in thinking he expects you to be wonder woman. All men expect that in us because in a way we are like wonder woman. In my home i saw my mother do everything from washing the clothes and ironing and cleaning the house to making our supper and doing the dishes. She worked 40 hours a week and came home to a house full of young kids 7 to be exact and 5 of us were 10 months apart plus she took care of my fathers needs. I learned very young how to do 5 things at the same time. So you see we are like wonder woman because that is what men are use to seeing in women and to tell you the truth i wouldn%26#039;t know how to be anything less then a woman who does everything from working out side the home to taking care of my son to taking care of my home. I do everything my mother did and i have her to thank for showing me how to do that and to take care of my husband at the same time. I guess you could say my mother taught me what is called old school way. It sounds like your husbands mother was like me or my mother who does everything in the home. If he saw this he is wondering why you can%26#039;t be like his mother, any i right? It is very unfair for women to do everything while the man works comes home and just lays on the couch with remote in hand. And just because that was the way i was taught doesn%26#039;t mean it was right. My son is 26 now and I taught him how to respect women and not to expect his wife to do everything just because she is a woman. Unless we mothers start teaching our sons to respect women and to look at us as their equal and not as their own personal slave like i was taught it won%26#039;t stop.


I%26#039;m sorry to go off like i did and I%26#039;m sorry your husband did that to you, your husband sounds like an ahole. He will come around when he get tired of doing what ever it is he is doing they always do.Hang in there remember you are a woman and we women are very strong and tuff when we have to be.
Reply:sorry to hear that ....men are unpredictable creatures, your a strong woman with good values you will move forward with your children...your very blessed to have your mom





best of luck
Reply:Welcome to reality. The second you both said %26quot;I DO%26quot; your loving relationship was over. Marriage destroys relationships!!! Some people realize this in weeks some lie to themselves for years. Don%26#039;t be mad at him or yourself, he just realized it and doesn%26#039;t want to lie anymore. Whatever you do DON%26#039;T EVER GET MARRIED AGAIN if you are in love or you will destroy it!!!
Reply:Sounds like he is irresponsible...





who knows?


maybe he%26#039;s cheating


maybe he%26#039;s addicted to porn


maybe he feels stressed with the new baby coming





Read Divorce Busters immediately.





Call your minister for counseling.





Start building yourself a support group - family, friends, church, etc.





Call an attorney to get a legal separation %26amp; child support for both children.
Reply:Your husband sounds very immature,%26amp; very uncaring...What he did to you was wrong %26amp; no doubt very painful,but trust me....If you do everything you can,to be a responsible,caring parent to these innocent children,%26amp; take care of yourself,one day you%26#039;ll have other opportunities for a better life.There are a few things that you deserve without a doubt,%26amp; they are,kindness,honesty,%26amp; love....BOL



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Well, do you think I have done enough?

This Friday my wife and I are celebrating our tenth wedding anniversary. I have arranged for flowers, chocolates, a Teddy Bear and a card to be presented to her at her workplace. Is this and going out for tea enough? I will probably get into a bit of strife for %26quot;wasting%26quot; money but what the heck. Ten years, not too bad for a %26quot;bald, fat and not so old%26quot; guy married to a Filipina. I thought I would add the last sentence before anyone else did and just to prove that it can work out.

Well, do you think I have done enough?
Wow! Big Chuck congrats.. I think you%26#039;ve done more than enough.. but I think you need to lose the Teddy Bear... just my thought.
Reply:Hooray!





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Reply:Just do it Big Chuck and congrats! I%26#039;d better start thinking about that myself. In September my wonderful Filipina wife and I will have been married 8 years.
Reply:congrats man.


I think thats a fine 10 year celebration


Way to go
Reply:if you really love her chuck, it is not a waste. but if it is all for show, it is a waste!





will be celebrating my 10th this december too. i just hope my inlaws don%26#039;t come back from the US so we can have some peace and quiet:)





but you are right on the money with flowers and chocolate but the teddy? she must be really young then huh. music by candle light? wish i could match what you have planned!





GO FOR IT!
Reply:congratulations to both of you. enjoy your big day. smile....
Reply:I agree, cancel tea and take her somewhere really romantic for dinner.. Somewhere you know she will enjoy!





Congratulations and Have fun!





Bcn_mimosa from Barcelona, Spain
Reply:that%26#039;s very nice romantic %26amp; loving so congratulations to you %26amp; enjoy your evening %26amp; its more than enough :)
Reply:I think she would be thrilled.You have thought abt it.Be it dinner or tea...you have made it special.





She might show that she is upset abt the money, but internally she will be excited that her %26#039;bald%26#039; %26#039;fat%26#039; and %26#039;not so old%26#039; husband is still a romatic !!





Happy Anniversry.
Reply:Yeah, it sounds great! Happy anniversary.


Don%26#039;t forget to take her out to her favorite restaurant.
Reply:Loving her daily is a fabulous gift from you.


Bravo Big Chuck! Congratulations you both of you.
Reply:Happy tenth Mr.%26amp; Mrs. Big Chuck! And maybe a move ?
Reply:congratulations! do you have a single brother?
Reply:I would cancel the tea and go out for a romantic dinner instead. Everything else is good.
Reply:congratulations! but maybe the girls can answer that...
Reply:Excellent planning, Chuck %26#039;ole boy!!! Congratulations! Long may you love. MABUHAY!
Reply:aww, how sweet of you, big man!!! lucky wife...luckier you!





mike joins me in wishing you and the wife %26quot;happy 10th anniversary%26quot;!








**yes, it%26#039;s the real me
Reply:hey Chuck congratulations!!!! You%26#039;re so sweet only the thought of sending flowers that would surprise her in her workplace is very romantic! I think every woman loves surprises and flowers. Yes you can complete your big day dining in a restaurant for dinner.
Reply:hey, that is so sweet. to get flowers from your spouse at your worplace is great...
Reply:that is so sweet. . . dinner would be more romantic... candlelight... and after dessert you can give her a beautiful simple necklace or ring or you can ask her to dance with you in a very sweet song that reminds both of you what you%26#039;ve been through
Reply:How romantic of you, Big Chuck! Congratulations. Cheers! %26lt;*-*%26gt;
Reply:Congratulations, Big C! but i can%26#039;t help notice the message underlying that question of yours? is it for _ _LL ? sayaw Kikay (translated: dance Kikay).
Reply:CONGRATULATIONS! She deserve the love, care, and understanding.
Reply:Congratulations mate. Keep the fire burning in your hearts.
Reply:congratulations and best wishes to you and your wife.
Reply:cool.....congratulations from sherrylani %26amp; me
Reply:::


I think 10th anniversary%26#039;s aluminum - maybe a beer for you after dinner (kidding)!





Congrats Big Chuck!
Reply:just the thought youre giving time to make her happy is more than enough,no material thing can quantify with a loving husband.your wife is lucky to be blessed with a husband like you...keep the fire burning and stay true to your marital vows.congratulations!!
Reply:girls are such a sucker for flowers and chocolates (I know cuz I am one), but what about making something extra special and out of the ordinary?? do u know how to cook?? filipinas (or every woman for that matter) can really appreciate some things like that, try to prepare a special dinner (that´s if u know how to cook),cook her favorite food and then try to redecorate (temporarily) your crib for the special event, she would really melt with your efforts and probably give u rewards later!!^^








Goodluck and Congratz!!
Reply:You can go overboard and still it%26#039;s never enough for the love of your life. But you%26#039;re doing just fine, old man (and I do say that with much love and respect). Congratulations!





Might I suggest that when you kiss her that morning, do whisper this to her %26quot;stick with me, honey, the best is yet to come.%26quot;
Reply:YES...and then some...congratulations, chuckie!



Soles

Is This Short Story Sad...Do you get it?

Last night he was drunk,and hit me very hard,but I know he is sorry this time because I received flowers today,it is not our anniversary,or any other special day.


Today,he still hit me,but I know he is sorry because I received flowers today,it is not valentine%26#039;s day or any other special day.


*I%26#039;m so scared to get help,because I depend much on him with my kids,and without him they would have no food at the table....


Today,I received flowers at my funeral,last night he beat me till death even thought my kids were watching,if I woulda have gotten help I woulda never received flowers today...

Is This Short Story Sad...Do you get it?
i get it, do you. time to get out of this before the flowers that


he senting you will be at the funeral. please get out for you


and your children you deserve more then that, you dont have


to depend on him or any one else. start to depend on your


self and your children. they need you. get the help you need


time to talk to someone. now. good luck toyou.
Reply:OMG, that is heartwrenching...:(
Reply:yes it%26#039;s sad, and yes, I totally get it.....do you?





Abusive relationships never end with apologies or flowers, they end when one person is broken or even worse, killed...





Get out now if you are involved in one......there is ALWAYS someone or somewhere to turn, never think you%26#039;re alone and NEVER think there%26#039;s no way out.....
Reply:Yes, I get it. I was a DV victim too, and got out BECAUSE of my kids. They didn%26#039;t need to live like that.





Today I am remarried to a wonderful man. There ARE happy endings.
Reply:Yes, I get it. And it really makes me sick to my stomach. How is dying %26#039;helping her kids%26#039;? I will never.......ever.......understand how this sort of thing is allowed to happen. It IS for real. There are women being abused on a daily basis.
Reply:Yeah i get it and what are you asking here???? If you are being abused get out now and get out fast..... Leave and do not look back.... This is a story that can really happen but why are you typing it?
Reply:Yes that is sad, and I hope you or your friend gets out of that relationship because it is inevitable where it is going.



www.poetry.com

Are you aware that this is domestic violence awareness month?

Have you heard this poem? If you know someone who should see it, please print it out %26amp; give it to them. They might be in denial now, but if you can plant a seed, you might save a life.





I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today..





I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and tried to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore %26amp; bruised all over. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.











I%26#039;m running out of letters. Please see next page.

Are you aware that this is domestic violence awareness month?
I feel like a bad guidance counselor. No I didn%26#039;t know, but thanks for telling me sweetie. =-)
Reply:WOW!! life is funny, When stuff happen to you or someone Else, It hard to understand... I%26#039;m glad that i got out of my mess...Thank you again for posting this poem... People don%26#039;t understand when a women goes Thur this, it breaks her sprite, and people should be more understanding about this..
Reply:Ok
Reply:Yes. Several years ago, I worked with a domestic violence shelter and I put on a big talent show to raise money to help the shelter. In 2004, I went to California to a big domestic violence seminar with the district attorneys.



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A cute flower idea for my girlfriend?

Its me and my girlfriend%26#039;s 6mnth anniversary, and I want to surprise her with flowers at school. I want to think of something original to say / how many flowers to get. Any past ideas that you got would be great, Thanks in advance.

A cute flower idea for my girlfriend?
The cutest thing I could think of is to have the flowers delivered to her school. They would call her up to the office to get them. Or better yet, find out what class she has at the time they would be delivered and have them sent to her class.


Roses are an traditional idea, but if you know her favorite kind, get those. You can never go wrond with lilies.
Reply:if you want to get her floweres get her six roses for going out with her for six months
Reply:I%26#039;m alergic to flowers, you terrible person! *cries*


-decks


P.S. not really, i just cant take you seriously with that hat on. :)


P.S.S. Lol i%26#039;m just kidding, theres no hat. :0
Reply:ask her friends what her fav flower is.
Reply:6 flowers. Visit her, and just tell her you love her, and say happy anniversary... Blah blah. There%26#039;s no need to recite poetry or make speeches. Just do it simply.
Reply:six flowers
Reply:put a rose in her locker, than have a note for her to meet you somewhere special.
Reply:Often times the color of a rose has a meaning. For example a single red rose simply means %26quot;I love you%26quot;.





For a 6 month anniversary, you could send her 6 roses... each a different color. Each color represents the stages in your relationship.





The first month could be a Yellow Rose or even a Yellow Rose with a Red tip. This signafies friendship and falling in love... every loving relationship must be built on a solid friendship.





The second month and second flower sent to her can be an orange rose symbolizing Enthusiasm and Desire.





Third rose/month can be that of a Dark Pink rose which means %26quot;Thank you%26quot; and gratitude. You are thankful to have her and now you will see to it she knows it.





Fourth rose/month can be given as Yellow Rose which is often given to friends but this is to remind her that you are a friend and very happy.





Fifth rose will be that of Peach which means closing of the deal, sincerity and more gratitude.





Finally the 6th rose symbolizing your 6th month can be that of a Dark Red rose meaning undying love for one another.





You can simply give the different colored roses or you can also spice it up by attaching a card describing each of the rose%26#039;s color%26#039;s meanings and significance in your own words. Remember, it does not matter what others tell you the colors mean... make them mean something to you and symbolize that with your relationship.





Hope this helps.
Reply:Try putting a rose on the windshield of her car.
Reply:If you can get in her locker put one there then in every one of her classes then half a dozen at the end of the day. The first six should be white then the other ones red. My b/f did this for me and i loved it.
Reply:Flowers are nice I guess, but its old fashion.


you should get her chocolates or something.


They taste good, and flowers usually die after being in a vase for a week and they start to look like weeds.





Just my opinion.
Reply:kneel down on your knees and get her one red rose and a kiss(on the cheek)


I find it so much more romantic than a whole bunch of flowers


plus youre saving a couple of bucks



genealogy mormon

Have you ever heard this poem?

I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. He said a lot of really cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.





I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore %26amp; bruised all over.I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.





I got flowers today and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s Day or any other special day. Last night he beat me again. It was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I%26#039;m afraid of him %26amp; scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.





I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me

Have you ever heard this poem?
I %26#039;ve never heard it before i don%26#039;t feel right saying it%26#039;s beautiful because it%26#039;s to damn sad. I have none three separate couples personally where their husbands killed their wives. One was a dear friend of mine i went to school with. All three husbands would come home drunk and hit their wives for know reason and all three were scared to death to leave. One wife actually did leave and one month later he broke into her home while all her kids were in bed the kids were his. He had a knife with him and she tried to run up the stairs to protect her kids and on the way up he was stabbing her when he stopped she managed to get to the bed where her kids was and she fell on the bed and died. The oldest son who was 14 at the time was trying to stop his father from hurting his mom but he was out of his mind and was to strong for the boy. When the dad realize what he did he killed himself he told everyone when she left him if he can%26#039;t have her no one will.
Reply:Yes, I have read that poem. It was written by Paulette Kelly in 1992
Reply:This is a poetic fable. However, more than anything, it is a cry for help. If you (or whoever wrote this poem) needs help, please make sure the person gets the help. If you are not sure how to find or get help, please e-mail me.
Reply:Omg...Wow what a poem, sorry no I%26#039;ve never heard of it but that is deffinately a wrenching lil number..Where did you hear of it/see it?
Reply:Didn%26#039;t expect to find this poem here today...you made me pause and take a deep breath. Yes, I had read it before and cried when I did.
Reply:Nope. Doesn%26#039;t look like a poem to me... but I am not an English Lit major either...
Reply:I have never read this before, I can say it is a cry for help. not so many years ago I was in this type of relationship. Had it not been for the grace of God, I would probably not be here today. If you know of anyone in this situation, you should help them find a women of domestic violence counselor in their city. they have shelters and other means of helping women in this situation, of course the woman has to want help! for this to work to her advantage. Men who abuse their mates always make the women feel like they are nothing, break them to a point where they lose all respect for themselves and feel like there is nothing else or no-one else out there for them. Women in these cases have to realize they are important ! not only to themselves, but their children also. There is always help out there. Be strong, testify against them no matter what their threats are. Take a stand for yourself and your children. domestic violence councelors and shelters are out there, seek and find them.Your local law enforcement can help you with this also.
Reply:Yes. It shocked me reading it because at first you didn%26#039;t think it would end that way. It%26#039;s very strong though and it makes you think.
Reply:Yes, I have. It is a famous poem that is almost a daily reading for those of us who have been in abusive relationships. After I finally got up the nerve to leave.. I would cry my eyes out wondering if I did the right thing.. not for myself, I knew I had to get out.. but I felt so bad for my daughter (who I took with me and now have sole custody of her).. Right after it happened, I wanted so badly to put my head in the sand, believe his %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry%26#039;s%26quot; and go home.. someone sent this to me, and since then, when visiting abuse sites I have found this on almost every one.. it gives strength to those of us who know the true meaning of the words. Thanks for posting it again, because someone who needs it may see it here.
Reply:Wow, no I have never heard it before, but it is really moving. Thanks for sharing. Whoever wrote this knew what they were talking about.





I was married for five years to a man who used to abuse me in similar ways. It was only by the grace of God and the help of people who shared things with me such as this, that set me free. You never really know when one tiny thing you may share with someone may change their life. Hopefully you sharing this may help someone else out there.





Here%26#039;s something else you may like to read, I found it somewhere in a doctor%26#039;s office, written by an unknown author:





The first woman was created from the rib of a man.


She was not made from his head to top him,


Nor from his feet to be trampled upon by him,


But out of his side to be equal of him,


Under his arm to be protected,


And near his heart to be loved.
Reply:Something to think about the things women go threw is harsh...and to be admired when they fight back
Reply:I%26#039;ve never laid my eyes on this poem in particular, but the ending to me isn%26#039;t in the least surprising. This world has distastefully grown into a cold, depressing domain and the unfortunate thing about this is the fact that we%26#039;ve trapped ourselves. My heart goes out to all the abused men and women out there because I myself have gone through many (and still do) ways of abuse. My best advice is to tell someone you trust and the rest will figure itself out.
Reply:No I hadn%26#039;t and it is a sad poem and unfortunately it writes of very real situations.



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