Have you heard this poem? If you know someone who should see it, please print it out %26amp; give it to them. They might be in denial now, but if you can plant a seed, you might save a life.
I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today..
I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and tried to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore %26amp; bruised all over. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I%26#039;m running out of letters. Please see next page.
Are you aware that this is domestic violence awareness month?
I feel like a bad guidance counselor. No I didn%26#039;t know, but thanks for telling me sweetie. =-)
Reply:WOW!! life is funny, When stuff happen to you or someone Else, It hard to understand... I%26#039;m glad that i got out of my mess...Thank you again for posting this poem... People don%26#039;t understand when a women goes Thur this, it breaks her sprite, and people should be more understanding about this..
Reply:Ok
Reply:Yes. Several years ago, I worked with a domestic violence shelter and I put on a big talent show to raise money to help the shelter. In 2004, I went to California to a big domestic violence seminar with the district attorneys.
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Monday, April 13, 2009
A cute flower idea for my girlfriend?
Its me and my girlfriend%26#039;s 6mnth anniversary, and I want to surprise her with flowers at school. I want to think of something original to say / how many flowers to get. Any past ideas that you got would be great, Thanks in advance.
A cute flower idea for my girlfriend?
The cutest thing I could think of is to have the flowers delivered to her school. They would call her up to the office to get them. Or better yet, find out what class she has at the time they would be delivered and have them sent to her class.
Roses are an traditional idea, but if you know her favorite kind, get those. You can never go wrond with lilies.
Reply:if you want to get her floweres get her six roses for going out with her for six months
Reply:I%26#039;m alergic to flowers, you terrible person! *cries*
-decks
P.S. not really, i just cant take you seriously with that hat on. :)
P.S.S. Lol i%26#039;m just kidding, theres no hat. :0
Reply:ask her friends what her fav flower is.
Reply:6 flowers. Visit her, and just tell her you love her, and say happy anniversary... Blah blah. There%26#039;s no need to recite poetry or make speeches. Just do it simply.
Reply:six flowers
Reply:put a rose in her locker, than have a note for her to meet you somewhere special.
Reply:Often times the color of a rose has a meaning. For example a single red rose simply means %26quot;I love you%26quot;.
For a 6 month anniversary, you could send her 6 roses... each a different color. Each color represents the stages in your relationship.
The first month could be a Yellow Rose or even a Yellow Rose with a Red tip. This signafies friendship and falling in love... every loving relationship must be built on a solid friendship.
The second month and second flower sent to her can be an orange rose symbolizing Enthusiasm and Desire.
Third rose/month can be that of a Dark Pink rose which means %26quot;Thank you%26quot; and gratitude. You are thankful to have her and now you will see to it she knows it.
Fourth rose/month can be given as Yellow Rose which is often given to friends but this is to remind her that you are a friend and very happy.
Fifth rose will be that of Peach which means closing of the deal, sincerity and more gratitude.
Finally the 6th rose symbolizing your 6th month can be that of a Dark Red rose meaning undying love for one another.
You can simply give the different colored roses or you can also spice it up by attaching a card describing each of the rose%26#039;s color%26#039;s meanings and significance in your own words. Remember, it does not matter what others tell you the colors mean... make them mean something to you and symbolize that with your relationship.
Hope this helps.
Reply:Try putting a rose on the windshield of her car.
Reply:If you can get in her locker put one there then in every one of her classes then half a dozen at the end of the day. The first six should be white then the other ones red. My b/f did this for me and i loved it.
Reply:Flowers are nice I guess, but its old fashion.
you should get her chocolates or something.
They taste good, and flowers usually die after being in a vase for a week and they start to look like weeds.
Just my opinion.
Reply:kneel down on your knees and get her one red rose and a kiss(on the cheek)
I find it so much more romantic than a whole bunch of flowers
plus youre saving a couple of bucks
genealogy mormon
A cute flower idea for my girlfriend?
The cutest thing I could think of is to have the flowers delivered to her school. They would call her up to the office to get them. Or better yet, find out what class she has at the time they would be delivered and have them sent to her class.
Roses are an traditional idea, but if you know her favorite kind, get those. You can never go wrond with lilies.
Reply:if you want to get her floweres get her six roses for going out with her for six months
Reply:I%26#039;m alergic to flowers, you terrible person! *cries*
-decks
P.S. not really, i just cant take you seriously with that hat on. :)
P.S.S. Lol i%26#039;m just kidding, theres no hat. :0
Reply:ask her friends what her fav flower is.
Reply:6 flowers. Visit her, and just tell her you love her, and say happy anniversary... Blah blah. There%26#039;s no need to recite poetry or make speeches. Just do it simply.
Reply:six flowers
Reply:put a rose in her locker, than have a note for her to meet you somewhere special.
Reply:Often times the color of a rose has a meaning. For example a single red rose simply means %26quot;I love you%26quot;.
For a 6 month anniversary, you could send her 6 roses... each a different color. Each color represents the stages in your relationship.
The first month could be a Yellow Rose or even a Yellow Rose with a Red tip. This signafies friendship and falling in love... every loving relationship must be built on a solid friendship.
The second month and second flower sent to her can be an orange rose symbolizing Enthusiasm and Desire.
Third rose/month can be that of a Dark Pink rose which means %26quot;Thank you%26quot; and gratitude. You are thankful to have her and now you will see to it she knows it.
Fourth rose/month can be given as Yellow Rose which is often given to friends but this is to remind her that you are a friend and very happy.
Fifth rose will be that of Peach which means closing of the deal, sincerity and more gratitude.
Finally the 6th rose symbolizing your 6th month can be that of a Dark Red rose meaning undying love for one another.
You can simply give the different colored roses or you can also spice it up by attaching a card describing each of the rose%26#039;s color%26#039;s meanings and significance in your own words. Remember, it does not matter what others tell you the colors mean... make them mean something to you and symbolize that with your relationship.
Hope this helps.
Reply:Try putting a rose on the windshield of her car.
Reply:If you can get in her locker put one there then in every one of her classes then half a dozen at the end of the day. The first six should be white then the other ones red. My b/f did this for me and i loved it.
Reply:Flowers are nice I guess, but its old fashion.
you should get her chocolates or something.
They taste good, and flowers usually die after being in a vase for a week and they start to look like weeds.
Just my opinion.
Reply:kneel down on your knees and get her one red rose and a kiss(on the cheek)
I find it so much more romantic than a whole bunch of flowers
plus youre saving a couple of bucks
genealogy mormon
Have you ever heard this poem?
I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. He said a lot of really cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore %26amp; bruised all over.I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s Day or any other special day. Last night he beat me again. It was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I%26#039;m afraid of him %26amp; scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me
Have you ever heard this poem?
I %26#039;ve never heard it before i don%26#039;t feel right saying it%26#039;s beautiful because it%26#039;s to damn sad. I have none three separate couples personally where their husbands killed their wives. One was a dear friend of mine i went to school with. All three husbands would come home drunk and hit their wives for know reason and all three were scared to death to leave. One wife actually did leave and one month later he broke into her home while all her kids were in bed the kids were his. He had a knife with him and she tried to run up the stairs to protect her kids and on the way up he was stabbing her when he stopped she managed to get to the bed where her kids was and she fell on the bed and died. The oldest son who was 14 at the time was trying to stop his father from hurting his mom but he was out of his mind and was to strong for the boy. When the dad realize what he did he killed himself he told everyone when she left him if he can%26#039;t have her no one will.
Reply:Yes, I have read that poem. It was written by Paulette Kelly in 1992
Reply:This is a poetic fable. However, more than anything, it is a cry for help. If you (or whoever wrote this poem) needs help, please make sure the person gets the help. If you are not sure how to find or get help, please e-mail me.
Reply:Omg...Wow what a poem, sorry no I%26#039;ve never heard of it but that is deffinately a wrenching lil number..Where did you hear of it/see it?
Reply:Didn%26#039;t expect to find this poem here today...you made me pause and take a deep breath. Yes, I had read it before and cried when I did.
Reply:Nope. Doesn%26#039;t look like a poem to me... but I am not an English Lit major either...
Reply:I have never read this before, I can say it is a cry for help. not so many years ago I was in this type of relationship. Had it not been for the grace of God, I would probably not be here today. If you know of anyone in this situation, you should help them find a women of domestic violence counselor in their city. they have shelters and other means of helping women in this situation, of course the woman has to want help! for this to work to her advantage. Men who abuse their mates always make the women feel like they are nothing, break them to a point where they lose all respect for themselves and feel like there is nothing else or no-one else out there for them. Women in these cases have to realize they are important ! not only to themselves, but their children also. There is always help out there. Be strong, testify against them no matter what their threats are. Take a stand for yourself and your children. domestic violence councelors and shelters are out there, seek and find them.Your local law enforcement can help you with this also.
Reply:Yes. It shocked me reading it because at first you didn%26#039;t think it would end that way. It%26#039;s very strong though and it makes you think.
Reply:Yes, I have. It is a famous poem that is almost a daily reading for those of us who have been in abusive relationships. After I finally got up the nerve to leave.. I would cry my eyes out wondering if I did the right thing.. not for myself, I knew I had to get out.. but I felt so bad for my daughter (who I took with me and now have sole custody of her).. Right after it happened, I wanted so badly to put my head in the sand, believe his %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry%26#039;s%26quot; and go home.. someone sent this to me, and since then, when visiting abuse sites I have found this on almost every one.. it gives strength to those of us who know the true meaning of the words. Thanks for posting it again, because someone who needs it may see it here.
Reply:Wow, no I have never heard it before, but it is really moving. Thanks for sharing. Whoever wrote this knew what they were talking about.
I was married for five years to a man who used to abuse me in similar ways. It was only by the grace of God and the help of people who shared things with me such as this, that set me free. You never really know when one tiny thing you may share with someone may change their life. Hopefully you sharing this may help someone else out there.
Here%26#039;s something else you may like to read, I found it somewhere in a doctor%26#039;s office, written by an unknown author:
The first woman was created from the rib of a man.
She was not made from his head to top him,
Nor from his feet to be trampled upon by him,
But out of his side to be equal of him,
Under his arm to be protected,
And near his heart to be loved.
Reply:Something to think about the things women go threw is harsh...and to be admired when they fight back
Reply:I%26#039;ve never laid my eyes on this poem in particular, but the ending to me isn%26#039;t in the least surprising. This world has distastefully grown into a cold, depressing domain and the unfortunate thing about this is the fact that we%26#039;ve trapped ourselves. My heart goes out to all the abused men and women out there because I myself have gone through many (and still do) ways of abuse. My best advice is to tell someone you trust and the rest will figure itself out.
Reply:No I hadn%26#039;t and it is a sad poem and unfortunately it writes of very real situations.
flower
I got flowers today. It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore %26amp; bruised all over.I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s Day or any other special day. Last night he beat me again. It was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I%26#039;m afraid of him %26amp; scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me
Have you ever heard this poem?
I %26#039;ve never heard it before i don%26#039;t feel right saying it%26#039;s beautiful because it%26#039;s to damn sad. I have none three separate couples personally where their husbands killed their wives. One was a dear friend of mine i went to school with. All three husbands would come home drunk and hit their wives for know reason and all three were scared to death to leave. One wife actually did leave and one month later he broke into her home while all her kids were in bed the kids were his. He had a knife with him and she tried to run up the stairs to protect her kids and on the way up he was stabbing her when he stopped she managed to get to the bed where her kids was and she fell on the bed and died. The oldest son who was 14 at the time was trying to stop his father from hurting his mom but he was out of his mind and was to strong for the boy. When the dad realize what he did he killed himself he told everyone when she left him if he can%26#039;t have her no one will.
Reply:Yes, I have read that poem. It was written by Paulette Kelly in 1992
Reply:This is a poetic fable. However, more than anything, it is a cry for help. If you (or whoever wrote this poem) needs help, please make sure the person gets the help. If you are not sure how to find or get help, please e-mail me.
Reply:Omg...Wow what a poem, sorry no I%26#039;ve never heard of it but that is deffinately a wrenching lil number..Where did you hear of it/see it?
Reply:Didn%26#039;t expect to find this poem here today...you made me pause and take a deep breath. Yes, I had read it before and cried when I did.
Reply:Nope. Doesn%26#039;t look like a poem to me... but I am not an English Lit major either...
Reply:I have never read this before, I can say it is a cry for help. not so many years ago I was in this type of relationship. Had it not been for the grace of God, I would probably not be here today. If you know of anyone in this situation, you should help them find a women of domestic violence counselor in their city. they have shelters and other means of helping women in this situation, of course the woman has to want help! for this to work to her advantage. Men who abuse their mates always make the women feel like they are nothing, break them to a point where they lose all respect for themselves and feel like there is nothing else or no-one else out there for them. Women in these cases have to realize they are important ! not only to themselves, but their children also. There is always help out there. Be strong, testify against them no matter what their threats are. Take a stand for yourself and your children. domestic violence councelors and shelters are out there, seek and find them.Your local law enforcement can help you with this also.
Reply:Yes. It shocked me reading it because at first you didn%26#039;t think it would end that way. It%26#039;s very strong though and it makes you think.
Reply:Yes, I have. It is a famous poem that is almost a daily reading for those of us who have been in abusive relationships. After I finally got up the nerve to leave.. I would cry my eyes out wondering if I did the right thing.. not for myself, I knew I had to get out.. but I felt so bad for my daughter (who I took with me and now have sole custody of her).. Right after it happened, I wanted so badly to put my head in the sand, believe his %26quot;I%26#039;m sorry%26#039;s%26quot; and go home.. someone sent this to me, and since then, when visiting abuse sites I have found this on almost every one.. it gives strength to those of us who know the true meaning of the words. Thanks for posting it again, because someone who needs it may see it here.
Reply:Wow, no I have never heard it before, but it is really moving. Thanks for sharing. Whoever wrote this knew what they were talking about.
I was married for five years to a man who used to abuse me in similar ways. It was only by the grace of God and the help of people who shared things with me such as this, that set me free. You never really know when one tiny thing you may share with someone may change their life. Hopefully you sharing this may help someone else out there.
Here%26#039;s something else you may like to read, I found it somewhere in a doctor%26#039;s office, written by an unknown author:
The first woman was created from the rib of a man.
She was not made from his head to top him,
Nor from his feet to be trampled upon by him,
But out of his side to be equal of him,
Under his arm to be protected,
And near his heart to be loved.
Reply:Something to think about the things women go threw is harsh...and to be admired when they fight back
Reply:I%26#039;ve never laid my eyes on this poem in particular, but the ending to me isn%26#039;t in the least surprising. This world has distastefully grown into a cold, depressing domain and the unfortunate thing about this is the fact that we%26#039;ve trapped ourselves. My heart goes out to all the abused men and women out there because I myself have gone through many (and still do) ways of abuse. My best advice is to tell someone you trust and the rest will figure itself out.
Reply:No I hadn%26#039;t and it is a sad poem and unfortunately it writes of very real situations.
flower
This is Something Else?
%26lt;%26lt;
Reprinted from Ann Landers......Author Unknown
I got flowers today, it wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night,
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said
Because he sent me flowers today.
It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s day or any other special
day.
Last night he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I%26#039;m afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers today.
%26gt;%26gt;
This is Something Else?
That is so moving.
genealogy mormon
Reprinted from Ann Landers......Author Unknown
I got flowers today, it wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night,
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said
Because he sent me flowers today.
It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today, and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s day or any other special
day.
Last night he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I%26#039;m afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers today.
%26gt;%26gt;
This is Something Else?
That is so moving.
genealogy mormon
What do you think of this??
I got flowers today.
It wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night,
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today,
and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s Day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I%26#039;m afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers...today.
What do you think of this??
That%26#039;s deep. I think it%26#039;s 100% true!
Reply:Beautiful!!!!!!!!
it has allot of imagery i loved it i mean i know it was sad but it was interesting.
Reply:thats really good.
true.
Reply:Read it before.. its so true though.
Reply:omg wow that is really good and sad.
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It wasn%26#039;t my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night,
And he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.
I know he is sorry and didn%26#039;t mean the things he said.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
It wasn%26#039;t our anniversary any other special day.
Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare.
I couldn%26#039;t believe it was real.
I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today,
and it wasn%26#039;t Mother%26#039;s Day or any other special day.
Last night, he beat me up again.
And it was much worse than all the other times.
If I leave him, what will I do?
How will I take care of my kids?
What about money?
I%26#039;m afraid of him and scared to leave.
But I know he must be sorry.
Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today.
Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night, he finally killed me.
He beat me to death.
If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him,
I would not have gotten flowers...today.
What do you think of this??
That%26#039;s deep. I think it%26#039;s 100% true!
Reply:Beautiful!!!!!!!!
it has allot of imagery i loved it i mean i know it was sad but it was interesting.
Reply:thats really good.
true.
Reply:Read it before.. its so true though.
Reply:omg wow that is really good and sad.
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Today i recieved a wonderful surprise!?
whilst i was dangling out windows and hanging from trees, being an apprentice to my husband with his christmas lights annual ritual. i got a great big bouquet of flowers delivered for our wedding anniversary, which is tomorrow. how nice is that?
Today i recieved a wonderful surprise!?
It%26#039;s nice. It%26#039;s also sweet that someone remembered your anniversary. May you have many more.
Reply:You are one of the lucky ones
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Today i recieved a wonderful surprise!?
It%26#039;s nice. It%26#039;s also sweet that someone remembered your anniversary. May you have many more.
Reply:You are one of the lucky ones
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Should i stay or should i go?
i%26#039;ve dated my husband since i was 12 and we got married at 20 and 21 .after all these yrs he says that i neglected him and he dosn%26#039;t know if he wants to be in the marriage anymore. after he says 6 yrs of turning him down. i%26#039;m on different meds including depo shot , i take asthma and bp meds. all these yrs he has never been romantic like, take me out, give me flowers and jewlery . for every anniversary,birthday and holiday or spec occassion he has a card or gift. from all these yrs ive kept his gifts and cards in a treasure .box i can count on both hands how many gifts ive got from him . ive done everything that i can think of to talk and he dosnt want to
he wants to just keep going and dont talk about it and when i talk about it he gets mad i know that there is no other woman but i feel like he%26#039;s tired of being with me he says we are growing apart he loves me but not like he did when we were dating. im stumped i almost feel like he%26#039;s playing head games
Should i stay or should i go?
You two have been together for most of your life...People do grow apart and reading what you wrote i do believe, this has happened. If you tried everything you can think of, your going to ware your self out mentally and physically by continuing...Its up to you, do what you feel in your heart is right...
Reply:well.... this is a hard one, but maybe be cousuling if u really want to be with him, fix ur marrige by going to a counselor. i know its wierd to talk about it with someone you dont know, but it will help in the end. Maybe he really loves you and wants to fix the problem also but dosnt know how. and love isnt about presents and jewerly, its about happiness and when u dont have that u dont have anything. hope it works out in the end.
Reply:You can find support and clarity through counseling. If your hubby doesn%26#039;t want to go with you, go alone, taking care of yourself is never wrong. It%26#039;ll enable you to think more clearly about your concerns. Who knows, maybe by seeing you do this for yourself, the man will take heart and start showing an interest in your future together.
No matter what, you need a friend in your corner that you can trust and turn to.
Reply:Well as far as i am concerned he has been negllecting u if he has never done anything romantic... but i know what u mean i was on the depo shot and i had no sex drive at all..... but i think he is playin mind games with u he either wants to be in the marraige or not ... maybe he is hopin by treating u this way u will kick him out then that way he doesn%26#039;t look like a prick for leavin ya.... but also he could be tellin the truth u really were eachothers first love and sometimes as we grow we do grow apart... but i think he should be talkin to u about it otherwise u will lose the lot and kick him out.... maybe if he doesn%26#039;t want to talk and only gets mad if u do then u should give him an ultimatum whatever 1 u give u should be prepared to go through with it...
Reply:try marriage counseling before you leave him, that way you know you will have tried everything within your power to fix the marriage and your husbands ways.... good luck
Reply:go.....fall in love at least ten times before you die.
Reply:wow....why would you even want to stay in what sounds like an emotionally and sexual vacumn????? Time to move on and get a real life...good luck
Reply:You got married too young.
It is a shame but you both grew apart.
It happens .You both got comfortable with each other where neither has to try to impress the other anymore.
I would split and find someone who rings your bell and that you do not have to complain about .
Good Luck.
Reply:That is the biggest mistake a young couple married at early age @ 20 and 21. My advise is since you do not have any children, you should find your real happiness and I%26#039;m sure you will find your Mr Right.
Yr current spouse is not right for you and if he does, he will treasures and respect you greatly and not acting like an old man to his old hag wife.
Reply:i%26#039;m on different meds including depo shot , i take asthma and bp meds. all these yrs he has never been romantic like, take me out, give me flowers and jewlery .
It sounds that you may have too many health issues going on and he is not attracted to you in the way he once was. According to your own comments he is not romantic and wanting you around and perhaps it is a complex of appearance...Harsh but possibly true.
Reply:This is a little tough to try and answer...
You two started dating at a extremely young age, cutting out all of the opportunities to experience new crushes and date other people. You pretty much grew up together and that is why it is so hard to even think about being apart, which is understandable, but at the same time I see and understand where your husband is coming from as well.
You only know him and he only knows you. Giving up your whole entire adolescence period to be with one person until %26#039;death do you part%26#039; is a little threatening if you ask me. Usually from 12 to 16 or 17 both girls and guys have gone on several dates and through several boyfriends and girlfriends. Probably even older than that. You%26#039;re supposed to learn from all of the little heartbreaks and stuff so that you are more prepared to deal with a long-term and committed relationship.
But that is where the problem lies. Neither of you have been able to do that and are now faced with a problem that seems almost inevitable.
I could see a better outcome if you had say...met in high school.
But what I do suggest over everything is that you two get couple%26#039;s counseling. He may not want to hear you, but hearing it from a professional or outside source seems to do good things.
I wish you the best through this tough time.
Reply:There are a few different things you can try. You could act like you don%26#039;t care anymore, which is something that has worked for me, especially when they were the ones first acting like they didn%26#039;t care..... That may or may not work in your situation though. Or you could start doing things you normally wouldn%26#039;t do.. such as, if you don%26#039;t dress up much, trying wearing something sexy around the house to maybe get him interested again. otherwise if these don%26#039;t work, then I would suggest going out and finding someone who appreciates you!!!
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he wants to just keep going and dont talk about it and when i talk about it he gets mad i know that there is no other woman but i feel like he%26#039;s tired of being with me he says we are growing apart he loves me but not like he did when we were dating. im stumped i almost feel like he%26#039;s playing head games
Should i stay or should i go?
You two have been together for most of your life...People do grow apart and reading what you wrote i do believe, this has happened. If you tried everything you can think of, your going to ware your self out mentally and physically by continuing...Its up to you, do what you feel in your heart is right...
Reply:well.... this is a hard one, but maybe be cousuling if u really want to be with him, fix ur marrige by going to a counselor. i know its wierd to talk about it with someone you dont know, but it will help in the end. Maybe he really loves you and wants to fix the problem also but dosnt know how. and love isnt about presents and jewerly, its about happiness and when u dont have that u dont have anything. hope it works out in the end.
Reply:You can find support and clarity through counseling. If your hubby doesn%26#039;t want to go with you, go alone, taking care of yourself is never wrong. It%26#039;ll enable you to think more clearly about your concerns. Who knows, maybe by seeing you do this for yourself, the man will take heart and start showing an interest in your future together.
No matter what, you need a friend in your corner that you can trust and turn to.
Reply:Well as far as i am concerned he has been negllecting u if he has never done anything romantic... but i know what u mean i was on the depo shot and i had no sex drive at all..... but i think he is playin mind games with u he either wants to be in the marraige or not ... maybe he is hopin by treating u this way u will kick him out then that way he doesn%26#039;t look like a prick for leavin ya.... but also he could be tellin the truth u really were eachothers first love and sometimes as we grow we do grow apart... but i think he should be talkin to u about it otherwise u will lose the lot and kick him out.... maybe if he doesn%26#039;t want to talk and only gets mad if u do then u should give him an ultimatum whatever 1 u give u should be prepared to go through with it...
Reply:try marriage counseling before you leave him, that way you know you will have tried everything within your power to fix the marriage and your husbands ways.... good luck
Reply:go.....fall in love at least ten times before you die.
Reply:wow....why would you even want to stay in what sounds like an emotionally and sexual vacumn????? Time to move on and get a real life...good luck
Reply:You got married too young.
It is a shame but you both grew apart.
It happens .You both got comfortable with each other where neither has to try to impress the other anymore.
I would split and find someone who rings your bell and that you do not have to complain about .
Good Luck.
Reply:That is the biggest mistake a young couple married at early age @ 20 and 21. My advise is since you do not have any children, you should find your real happiness and I%26#039;m sure you will find your Mr Right.
Yr current spouse is not right for you and if he does, he will treasures and respect you greatly and not acting like an old man to his old hag wife.
Reply:i%26#039;m on different meds including depo shot , i take asthma and bp meds. all these yrs he has never been romantic like, take me out, give me flowers and jewlery .
It sounds that you may have too many health issues going on and he is not attracted to you in the way he once was. According to your own comments he is not romantic and wanting you around and perhaps it is a complex of appearance...Harsh but possibly true.
Reply:This is a little tough to try and answer...
You two started dating at a extremely young age, cutting out all of the opportunities to experience new crushes and date other people. You pretty much grew up together and that is why it is so hard to even think about being apart, which is understandable, but at the same time I see and understand where your husband is coming from as well.
You only know him and he only knows you. Giving up your whole entire adolescence period to be with one person until %26#039;death do you part%26#039; is a little threatening if you ask me. Usually from 12 to 16 or 17 both girls and guys have gone on several dates and through several boyfriends and girlfriends. Probably even older than that. You%26#039;re supposed to learn from all of the little heartbreaks and stuff so that you are more prepared to deal with a long-term and committed relationship.
But that is where the problem lies. Neither of you have been able to do that and are now faced with a problem that seems almost inevitable.
I could see a better outcome if you had say...met in high school.
But what I do suggest over everything is that you two get couple%26#039;s counseling. He may not want to hear you, but hearing it from a professional or outside source seems to do good things.
I wish you the best through this tough time.
Reply:There are a few different things you can try. You could act like you don%26#039;t care anymore, which is something that has worked for me, especially when they were the ones first acting like they didn%26#039;t care..... That may or may not work in your situation though. Or you could start doing things you normally wouldn%26#039;t do.. such as, if you don%26#039;t dress up much, trying wearing something sexy around the house to maybe get him interested again. otherwise if these don%26#039;t work, then I would suggest going out and finding someone who appreciates you!!!
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