Can you really just be too young?

I have had a really healthy two year relationship, amazing guy, got on really well, did all the right things. On the monday we were singing the songs we would have at our wedding, on tuesday he sent me flowers for our anniversary and on wed we finished, as he said whilst he still loves me, he is only just 25, and worries that he is too young to me in a relationship as serious as ours. Do you think that he can possibly still feel the same way and make this decision, or is he just making up excuses to soften the blow? He says he%26#039;d like to get back with me in 2 years time. Obviously I can%26#039;t/ wont wait around for that!

Can you really just be too young?
sounds like you scared him off as he is not ready to settle down but got to admit that is a bit sudden. sure he hasnt got someone else on the go as well?
Reply:Sounds like he is insecure and you should think about moving on.
Reply:i think this guy is just worried about commitment...most guys are! he obviously cares about u and doesnt want to hurt/devastate you...


i would try and get back with him...but not be in such a rush for everything to happen...b/c you obviously care for him as well...i mean you wouldnt be on yahoo! answers if you didnt!!! lol...go get your man!
Reply:He had his chance.For what he did i think he just don%26#039;t know what he wants.U wait for him???i don%26#039;t think so.Move along .Fine someone whom is wheeling to spent every minute beside you.With another words,don%26#039;t lick where you spit...Good luck
Reply:Sounds like what he%26#039;s saying is not that the age difference is starting to show hard edges, but that he%26#039;s not ready to be steady--the old guy/commitment thing. My guess is that you want a more rigidly monogamous relationship than he is ready for and he wants to be able to act on those testosterone driven impulses.





Unfortunately, those impulses are a lifelong condition for most of us--what changes is our ability to handle it in a civilized and appropriate way. He may be right about being more ready for a lifelong commitment an a couple of years, but he may also be fooling himself. But you%26#039;re nobody%26#039;s fool, and I think you%26#039;re wise to move on.
Reply:Screew that hes a playa he gets with u then wants to get back in to years NO WAY
Reply:Everyone is different and maybe he really is being honest. He could be an all or nothing kind of guy and maybe he%26#039;s been confused about this for a while, even though he likes you.





Don%26#039;t wait around. If it%26#039;s meant to be, it will happen.





It%26#039;s better that he said it now than actually going through with a wedding and deciding after a couple of kids that he didn%26#039;t live his life enough and leaving you.
Reply:he got scared and still wants his freedom... two yrs to sow oats and he might have a few kids or who knows what.
Reply:well.... obviously not!! he blew you off...
Reply:they say sometimes if u really love something or someone u%26#039;ve got to let it go.
Reply:I think this guy is afraid of commitment and doesn%26#039;t want to give up the dating scene with other woman. I don%26#039;t think 25 is too young, although I don%26#039;t know how mature this guy is for his age. There is an old saying %26quot;If you love something set it free, if it comes back it is yours, if it doesn%26#039;t it never was.%26quot; Let him go and do his thing and in the meantime you go out and do yours. You may just want him back in two years, but if he loses you in two years when he comes back to you to pick up where things left off, he has to deal with the consequence of you not being interested in him when that time comes. Do not sit around and wait for him to come back to you after he has had his fill with girls.
Reply:I think he is scared of commitment. Find someone who deserves you! :)
Reply:I think he just want to have his fun.Two years ago he was ready for a relationship that time was he old . That time he was younger than he was now. He just wants to have his cake and eat it too. and what happens even after two years he says he isn%26#039;t ready for marriage or comes up with any silly excuses. IT best you tell him to go to hell and you r doing the right thing by not waiting for him. He%26#039;s not worth it you will find someone better who will not be selfish and will love you and not himself.
Reply:I think this guy you%26#039;re talking about has found out the end of the relationship with you , ie. he seems to have been bored by your company . Could you remember any instances when he acts indifferently towards you in his words or deeds ? I think he will be in search of new pastures as he has received what he wanted from you and would not mind searching for it in a different place . Do not be crest-fallen because it happens more often in case of transient relationships like yours .
Reply:No way, the guy just punked out on you. You%26#039;re ready to settle down, and at the age of 25, it%26#039;s perfectly fine. I can still settle to wait 5 more years myself, but this guy%26#039;s throwing away a good opportunity. But let this be an advantage to you: he didn%26#039;t cop out at the last minute, and he didn%26#039;t flee down the isle. Your marriage would%26#039;ve been a sham if he went through without revealing his true colors.
Reply:if you love hem wate for hem are go talk to hem an tell hem the way you fell about hem
Reply:He%26#039;s trying to soften the blow. MAYBE he THINKS he%26#039;d like to get back with you in 2 years time, but that%26#039;s not going to happen. People say this when they love someone, but want to see other people, too. He might feel he hasn%26#039;t dated enough or that there are still things he wants to do before he settles down. He%26#039;s probably as confused as you are. But trust me, if he did stay with you, he%26#039;d probably end up cheating on you anyway, as something is keeping him from making a commitment to you.





I said the same thing to someone once.... I really needed the time to myself to travel and grow as a person, as that was very important to me. He kept trying to convince me I could do that all later, or with him, but I knew I needed to do it earlier. I realized pretty quickly after I left that we wouldn%26#039;t get back together. Two years later, I%26#039;m marrying somebody else.





Your only chance is if maybe you suggest NOT talking about weddings etc. and taking some of the intensity out of the relationship. Perhaps he just got scared off by this talk. But my gut feeling is he has some growing to do as a person. Lots of people don%26#039;t feel ready to commit to someone until they%26#039;re secure in their career, etc.
Reply:I%26#039;m very sorry-he%26#039;s an immature idiot. He may be a nice guy and all but that%26#039;s just...





Anyway-don%26#039;t wait around. Trust me he%26#039;s not. I don%26#039;t think it%26#039;s a softening the blow thing..I think they actually mean it they%26#039;re just very misguided.
Reply:he waited to years to tell u this?? seems like someone has cold feet.. try to make it work.. u both are still young u dont need to get married right now.. unless that is what you want.. it just may not be what he wants..
Reply:did you started having sex with him lately!


as such kind of sudden transformation in relations start once you have sex.


talk to him straight and if not satisfied with his answers then move on as chances are less that he will come back again
Reply:Looks like he is bored with you, wants to try other options for next two years. He will get back to you if he doesnt get a better one than you... got it?
Reply:Wow, talk about mixed signals. Are you sure there wasn%26#039;t something else going on? Usually, there are signs for this kind of thing.





I met my current boyfriend when I was 25. The relationship I was in before I met my current boyfriend was very damaging to me. For that relationship (not the current), I would definitely say I was too young as was my then boyfriend. Despite that relationship lasting three and a half years, we did each other a disservice by staying together. We were just too young and too immature.





But this relationship is much healthier and happier. We%26#039;ve been together for four years. Like I said I was 25 when we met.





It sounds to me like he%26#039;s making an excuse and trying to avoid the truth. He may be trying to protect you, but in doing so, it sounds like he%26#039;s not being completely honest. A lot of men tend to do that. They were taught not to hurt a woman in any way, and instead of being honest with us, they try to protect us. In reality, many women just want the truth no matter how hurtful it is.





So, if you want advice, tell him that you are an adult, and you don%26#039;t need him to protect you. And that if he loves you, he%26#039;d respect you enough to tell you the truth.





Good luck to you.
Reply:He is fooling u %26amp; I think he is not fit for u at all. I%26#039;m sorry to say u r not expert in selection of a ter to take help of an expert like parents or anybody respectable like them.
Reply:if he never gave you a diamond ring-figure it out-he got what he wanted now he wants to check other things out he says for 2 years which means he has mental or serious sin issues-but if you love someone you marry them in honor and respect. What comforted and keeps me in life is Jesus and his true love John 3 repented of sin-even one lie, and let Jesus into my heart to be my best friend, amen





prayin for you, David
Reply:Oh.. He wants to have his cake and eat it too!





This is code for, %26quot;I love you but, I don%26#039;t love you enough because some other girls are looking good at the moment...%26quot; He%26#039;s putting you on the backburner until he%26#039;s ready to make the tea.





If somebody loves you enough, they won%26#039;t %26#039;want to get back with you in two years%26#039;. They want you and only you right then and there - forever.
Reply:I had a boyfriend of 5 yrs. we have been apart for like a year 1/2 and we had always planned on getting better but it never happened and its not going too! He doesnt want anything to do with me anymore and he has moved on. 25 is not too young at all! he probably wants to get into the party phase again or somthing. thats what mine did and he never came back. good luck!
Reply:just one more reson........ dont belive this stupid guy who needs an excuse..........
Reply:He is just getting cold feet with pre-wedding jitters and thinking the grass might be greener on the other side.


The only thing is, you are on this side. ;^)





Don%26#039;t wait too long for him to make up his mind.





If he wants you when you are gone, then maybe he will realise how much he loves you and decide that he does want to be with you.





If he doesn%26#039;t come back, then it was all for the best and you can start over and focus on finding someone who is not afraid of committing to you, although it would be a real shame if you both can%26#039;t work this out together and break up over this.





I think he might have a very traditional view of what marriage entails, but it doesn%26#039;t have to be that way ~ it is how both of you make it for yourselves!





Maybe a chat to several married people who are happy and fulfilled in their relationships might help him realise that marriage is not necessarily a prison sentence!





It%26#039;s about two people dedicating themselves to each other to have a happy life together and about sharing their lives with each other and who are both willing to work through the ups and downs of life. It%26#039;s not all daisies but it is not all rain either.





If he doesn%26#039;t think he is ready for it though, maybe it is for the best that you don%26#039;t marry each other, because you wouldn%26#039;t want to marry thinking he would have any regrets either and end up breaking your heart in 20 years time instead.





That would be far worse for you in my opinion.





Maybe it is better if you stay together, but just forget about marriage for a while too.





It is not the end of the world really, is it if you delay for a few years, so long as you know you have his commitment in every other way but that way?
Reply:He is seriously scared of commitment! He freaked out! Thats y he broke up with u the way that he did! U either need to explain to him that u could still be in the relationship without having to get married just yet. Why cant u date for two more years and then get engaged? U need to explain to him that u wont wait around for him and if he still wants it to be over he must accept the consequences cause there will be! He is very immature still! If he says that he still needs a two year break then i suggest that u move on cause its unhealthy to wait! Shame man! Really sorry to hear what happened.
Reply:no you cant
Reply:2 YEARS!





He%26#039;s gonna be seing other women by then and he%26#039;ll forget all about and lose his gf at the time and you. He%26#039;s an idiot!





...Why do you want to marry him again?....



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