What should i do about my boyfriend?

I have been with this man for 3 years now, but was in an active addiction. I have recently become clean, and am now an active member of NA. He was never a user, but smokes weed and drinks ever now and then. And does it around me all the time. I can%26#039;t be around it and have tried to tell him many times, and he just doens%26#039;t give a ****. He is also a real asshole. He has never bought me flowers, he forgot our anniversary, 3 years in a row. He got me nothing for valentines day or my birthday. he doesn%26#039;t drive, and he lives in my house. I do love him, but i know i need to leave him. I just have a hard time being alone. Does anybody else have a hard time sleeping by them selves, and how did you over come it? Should i leave this man i have been with for years? How can i get through to him, and make him change?

What should i do about my boyfriend?
Get yourself a teddy, or maybe a cat if you%26#039;re that way inclined, but get this loser out of your life now! He%26#039;s trying to drag you down, and you%26#039;re better than that!
Reply:You could quit trying to control his life. You do your thing, let him do his.
Reply:when you knwo he is an asshole why are you with him... unless u like to be with one.. get out,,, He doesn%26#039;t care about you and your principle then i don%26#039;t think you should be in that relatinship at all... All the best with recovery
Reply:YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE!!! Any psychiatrist will tell you that. You already have said that you know that you need to leave him and I believe you should go with your gut on this one. You need to make a clean break but he lives in your place so you would have to kick him out and never see him again except that he knows where you live. It seems that your best bet would be to move somewhere that he can%26#039;t get to or at least does not know of. Trust me, you will sleep much easier alone without this guy.
Reply:Your boyfriend should respect the fact you have overcome an addition and be supportive enough to not lead you into temptation. Also, I know from being with a guy for seven years that one day you%26#039;ll wake up and say, I have wasted so much of my love on someone who never return it back. There are so many guys out there who will buy you flowers, not only for your birthday but just for being you! Trust me when I say it is time to move on. Three years is a long time but so is four and then five. You will not be able to make him change, spend sometime getting to know yourself and who you are without him.
Reply:You should definitely let im go. It sounds like he is a real jerk. I know it is kind of a cliche but consider buying a pet.
Reply:well u cant change anyone he can do that himself if he really loved u he would do that on his own and u wouldnt have to tell him so hes obviously not giving a ****.
Reply:You should talk to him and not let him yell at you, if he doesn%26#039;t care what you think that isn%26#039;t the guy you should be with. You should find a guy that has similar interest to yours and cares about you. You need a guy that is fun to be around. A boyfriend should be for you and care about your feelings. There are other guys out there for you, it will be a different kind of love but you will find another guy. Good luck!
Reply:thats the thing hun u need to get over those fears so u can let go of the asshole ...u already overcame addiction im sure it was hard so just like to pushed that to the side try to push him far far far away from u..he obviosly doesnt respect u enough to atleast not do it around u so...it shouldnt b so hard to leave him...u will be sad and alone but it will b the best thing u did 4 urself trust me i know from experiance...
Reply:Break up with that illegal drug using ***. Do it AFTER you move your things out with friends around, you never know with those type.
Reply:Other than the fact that he is a warm body...you love him why? Get rid of him and get a dog. You won%26#039;t regret it!!
Reply:He won%26#039;t change. Men never do, he may promise to change and show progress for a few days, but they always relapse back to their former ways. He sounds like a deadbeat with nothing to offer you. He is only bringing you down. For your own sake, you need to leave him. I know it is hard. The only thing that helps you get by is time. It gets easier day by day. You won%26#039;t be alone forever. You will find someone that will treat you right. Don%26#039;t waste anymore time on this loser.
Reply:here it is plan and simple your right hes a asshole and you deserve so much more when i hear thing like that it really makes me mad for the fact that i went through the same thing for four years the only reason i stayed with him so long was because i just didn%26#039;t want to be alone but sometimes it%26#039;s better that going through the pain and im also active in a relationship right now thats isn%26#039;t going well so my advise for you is to move on its going to hurt for a while but just keep your self busy go out with your friends spend time with your family and don%26#039;t jump into anything the right guy will come around so don%26#039;t worry there not all ASSHOLES good luck
Reply:Give him the boot. In order to start fresh, you need to get rid of the people that will hold you back. Good Luck and don%26#039;t fall back in.
Reply:this is a tough one ....
Reply:in think you have already answered your own question, pack his bags and kick him into touch, you sound like a lovely person and im sure you wont be on your own for long
Reply:God! for sure u need to kick d guy out... its really sad that we can%26#039;t overcome our fears and lets these ****** treat us like this... i have had and still have problems living alone but in this case u can prolly place an ad for a room mate or smthg...it won%26#039;t b as bad then and trust me the day u kick him out of ur life, u%26#039;ll feel soooo goood abt urself...it%26#039;s just about overcomin ur fear and doing it.... good luck
Reply:Leave him. What is friggin%26#039; stopping you ? Have you no shame, no sense of worth ??? Get a grip, you deserve so much better.
Reply:You *should* leave him, but you probably won%26#039;t. Unless you find someone else, and the new person will probably be an a*****e too. Some people are just unconsciously drawn to a******s. It%26#039;s just the way they are. Sorry, but that%26#039;s how I see it.





Hope things go well for you :-)
Reply:well you have a hard thing to do ... gethim out of your life fast// please as he will bring you down sorry. but run as fast as you can and get help to get the rat bag out of your house again sorry..
Reply:he%26#039;s not a user but smokes pot and drinks?





dump his sorry ***. you are obviosly ready to better yourself so why not get a better man?
Reply:Well in my opinion you should leave him. It sounds to me he doesn%26#039;t appreciate you for who you are. You should be with a man who supports you and loves you. If he really cared about you he wouldn%26#039;t forget you anniversary and he would buy you flowers just because its a Wednesday.
Reply:i would tell him if he loves me enough he would change....give him a chance to improve and if he doesnt try then say good bye





hope i helped
Reply:You can%26#039;t make him change, only he can do that and it sounds like he doesnt want to. You are going through a stage of growth and personal development, don%26#039;t let him stop that. If it%26#039;s just a fear of being alone then call in a friend or two, my friends pulled me out of depression when I left my childs father, they were always around, on the end of the phone or popping over for a chat all the time. My best friend stayed at my house, in my bed with me for nearly 2 months so I had someone to cuddle, she held me when I cried and never said a word, it%26#039;s you that matters, call on your true friends to remind you who you were b4 the addiction and help you become a strong person again. You said you need to leave him, so do it and call in the cavalry, friends and familly, that%26#039;s why we got %26#039;em. I hope you find the strength to stand tall and proud by yourself eventually.
Reply:people don%26#039;t change. he may grow out of a few things as he matures, but he is a loser. if you see so many things wrong with him why do you stay with him???
Reply:wow...its time for you to say goodbye to the guy. you have already told him that you cant be around the drugs and the alcohal and he doesnt listen. so to me that means that he doesnt care about what u feel or think. noone should be in a relationship like that. i was married for 12 years. and it took me a good min to get over the ex, but i managed. trust me, sleeping alone will be good for you. let him go sweety!!!
Reply:They only change if they want to. Find a guy with a dating service, secure him, THEN dump your asshole boyfriend. then you%26#039;ll never be alone, and you wont be with an ***.
Reply:Lose this loser as soon as possible.
Reply:hi there, i could forgive most things but forgetting your birthday and stuff...no flowers...it sounds like you r being taken for granted, has he ever worked or trying to get work?


you know you need to leave this man so you should make that change my friend..if its not working even after you have told him all this then its time to break away...its not hard being on your own, trust me, its great your own space doing whatever u like....i never have a hard time sleeping on my own! have a chat with him and if that doesnt work and he doesnt make changes then quit the relationship. you will have the valuable support of NA thru this time if thats what u choose...
Reply:OK~~


Lets see...


He isn%26#039;t supportive.


He%26#039;s an a@@hole.


He doesn%26#039;t drive.


He doesn%26#039;t acknowledge your birthday.


I%26#039;d rather sleep alone than to have that next to me!!!!!


You are on a new path in your sobriety.


He%26#039;ll only drag you down.


MOVE ON...you%26#039;ll find real happiness....cause this ain%26#039;t it!!!
Reply:Girl!





Put your big girl panties on and deal with it!





Kick his tail to the curb and get a grip. Move on, he can onlyhold you down!



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